That was the sales pitch my friend used to convince me to sign up for online dating. "It's just like online shopping, but rather than looking at shoes and handbags, you're searching for your future husband." I was intrigued by this and thought it might be right up my alley when she put it that way. After all, I am on a first name basis with my UPS delivery guy because I spend so much time browsing and shopping on the internet. So, after completing my profile, I was officially a member of the online dating community. I was "shopping" for a husband.
Within 5 minutes of going active on the site, I had received my first communication from someone. I could not believe that this worked so fast!! I had an email from a guy!! Being completely new to this world (and the dating world in general) I had no idea what to do with this. I immediately phoned a friend and asked for advice. I didn't know what to say, what not to say, when to respond, the list goes on and on. Before I could get off of the phone I had another email from another guy!! THIS WAS NUTS! I could not BELIEVE that I was getting all of this attention. After all…didn't they see that I was DIVORCED?!? Why in the world would they want to talk to me?
Before the end of the first two days on the website I would guess that I had received emails from 15-20 different people. There were some who I know that I did not even respond to…not because I was being rude or mean, but because I was so entirely overwhelmed with the whole process. It literally turned into a full time job on top of my real full time job. I was beginning to feel like I needed a personal assistant to help me communicate with my newfound plethora of men. Needless to say…I was beginning to see what my friend meant when she said that this would offer a great confidence boost. I was really beginning to feel a little better about myself and see that there might be a little hope for me in the single world that I had just been thrown back in to.
I found it fairly easy to decide whether or not I was interested in the guys after we had messaged back and forth a few times. I found that was sufficient to see if we really had much in common. That is when I would decide whether or not I wanted to give them my number so that we could text. I thought that texting might be a much easier way to handle the communication.
By the end of the first week or so, after all of the craziness of multiple multiple emails and text messages, I had decided to limit my communication to two people. I thought that these two were ones who I might be interested in potentially meeting face-to-face. I was very hesitant but also optimistic. I had decided to not close the door on any new prospects, but at that point it was hard for someone new to come in to the picture because I felt I had gotten to know these two guys a little better.
So that was that…it was time to meet these boys!
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