Saturday had FINALLY arrived and Todd was on his way to my house! I was so excited to see him again! It seemed like it had been forever since we had been together. I was so excited to see him and I absolutely could not wait for him to walk in my door! We were planning to relax at my house and watch a movie and then go to dinner Saturday night. Nothing too fancy…we just really wanted to spend time together and continue getting to know each other.
He had finally arrived at my house. My dogs were barking like heathens, just as they always do when anyone arrives. I was trying to control them and greet him at the same time. As soon as he came in the door, I realized that he was very serious about not liking indoor dogs. He didn't greet my dogs. He didn't pet my dogs. He just stared at them with this look of total disgust. I was honestly in shock!! I could not believe that he was not being friendly to my dogs. After all, they are not scary creatures…they weigh roughly 10 pounds a piece and have silky white hair and all they want is your undivided love and attention. In no way did I think they could ever be intimidating!
But, here I was…finding myself in the middle of a stare down between the 34 year old man I was dating and my 2 white fluffy dogs!! All I could do to break the ice was laugh and say "OK, you have met the pups!" He finally began "interacting" (and I use that word very lightly) with them. I thought "OK…maybe this is going to be fine." He seemed to be warming up to them and I felt like he might have just needed a little time to get used to the idea.
MAN WAS I WRONG!! Before I knew it he was literally chasing them through my house and scaring the bejesus out of both of them! I had NEVER seen either of my dogs react to any human the way they were reacting to Todd! They were literally running from him, with their tails down and trying to hide anywhere that they could! They even ran behind the sofa which I'm quite sure was the first time they had EVER been back there! I was so upset with the entire situation!!! The worst thing about it was that now Todd thought it was funny!! He was literally TERRORIZING my two babies and getting joy out of it. It had to stop. I put my foot down and told him that he could ABSOLUTELY NOT treat them that way! This was their house and HE was the visitor!
I think he might have gotten a little embarrassed because he did immediately stop and he apologized to me but it was too late. I was not happy and my poor dogs were completely traumatized. They would not even come near him. This was NOT good!
Needless to say, it did not set a good tone for the rest of the date. We hung out at my house for a little while but I honestly was ready to get him away from my dogs and to give my poor dogs a break from him! We went to dinner and I did bring up the subject of the dogs because I felt like it was something that needed to be discussed. I asked him why he acted the way that he did with the dogs and what his issue was with indoor dogs.
He had a story about his childhood where he got bitten by a small dog and how he never quite got over that. I kind of understood, but I was also thinking that he needed to man up a little because at the end of the day these weren't Pit Bulls or Dobermans, they were TINY 10 pound nothings!!! Then the real truth came out about why he hated indoor dogs so much. He went into a huge litany about how unclean indoor dogs were and how dirty they make furniture. Even if you can't see the dirt it is still there because they use the bathroom outside, don't wipe themselves and then come inside and sit on your furniture. He said they are disgusting and belong outdoors!
AND…there it was!!! I had found the point of contention for Todd and I!
Wednesday, June 25, 2014
Wednesday, June 18, 2014
The Tiny Red Flag Waving in the Distance
After our first date, Todd and I were really into each other. We started talking often and we made plans to get together a second time. This time I was going to be in his city for work. I already had a hotel room booked for the night (as I always did when I worked in that particular city) so we planned to meet up for cocktails after work and then grab dinner. Once again, the connection was instant and the chemistry was magical between us. After dinner he wanted to go to his house to watch a movie. I thought that sounded like a great idea because I absolutely did not want to leave him.
We went to his house and I became even more impressed with him. This was no bachelor pad. He had really worked hard to make this house seem like a home. He had very nice furniture, it was nicely decorated and the house was HUGE! Plus, it looked out over a lake and had the most picturesque view. We cuddled up on the couch and started a movie. I honestly don't even remember the movie that we watched because we didn't watch too much of it. We were like two high school kids who were just so wildly attracted to each other! It was nuts!! After the movie was over, I realized that it was once again way too late on a work night and I had to drive back to my hotel. I was not willing to stay over with him yet so I had to go "home". It's really hard to make responsible decisions when all you want to do is be irresponsible but that is part of being an adult and dating versus dating in college.
The next morning I met him for a breakfast date. We decided that we needed to maximize our time together while we were actually in the same city. After a quick bite to eat and a kiss goodbye I was on my way.
I was not going to see him again until the weekend. I was beginning to see that a long-distance relationship was going to be a little different than anything else I had tried thus far but since we both had such flexible work schedules, I thought that we travelled to each other's cities enough that we could make it work.
We continued talking constantly throughout the remainder of the week and we made plans to get together the following weekend. He was going to come up and spend the day on Saturday and then we would go out Saturday night. I felt like we had talked a lot up until this point and I honestly felt like I knew a lot about him. We had had many long conversations on the phone and I was really getting to know him well.
I knew about his job, his family, friends, religious views and beliefs. I knew what his goals were in life and what he was looking for in a companion. One thing that threw up a red flag in our conversations was the fact that he told me that he did not like small indoor dogs. I did not take this too seriously because I initially thought he was joking around and giving me a hard time because I had 2 small indoor dogs who were my world. They were like my children. I blew off his concerns because I just thought "What kind of weirdo doesn't like small dogs?" I just knew this could not really be a THING! After all…you have to be heartless to not like dogs and Todd was definitely not heartless!
So…I ignored the small, tiny red flag waving in the distance and proceeded on to the Saturday date. It was going to be fine! We were going to have a blast just as we always had!!
We went to his house and I became even more impressed with him. This was no bachelor pad. He had really worked hard to make this house seem like a home. He had very nice furniture, it was nicely decorated and the house was HUGE! Plus, it looked out over a lake and had the most picturesque view. We cuddled up on the couch and started a movie. I honestly don't even remember the movie that we watched because we didn't watch too much of it. We were like two high school kids who were just so wildly attracted to each other! It was nuts!! After the movie was over, I realized that it was once again way too late on a work night and I had to drive back to my hotel. I was not willing to stay over with him yet so I had to go "home". It's really hard to make responsible decisions when all you want to do is be irresponsible but that is part of being an adult and dating versus dating in college.
The next morning I met him for a breakfast date. We decided that we needed to maximize our time together while we were actually in the same city. After a quick bite to eat and a kiss goodbye I was on my way.
I was not going to see him again until the weekend. I was beginning to see that a long-distance relationship was going to be a little different than anything else I had tried thus far but since we both had such flexible work schedules, I thought that we travelled to each other's cities enough that we could make it work.
We continued talking constantly throughout the remainder of the week and we made plans to get together the following weekend. He was going to come up and spend the day on Saturday and then we would go out Saturday night. I felt like we had talked a lot up until this point and I honestly felt like I knew a lot about him. We had had many long conversations on the phone and I was really getting to know him well.
I knew about his job, his family, friends, religious views and beliefs. I knew what his goals were in life and what he was looking for in a companion. One thing that threw up a red flag in our conversations was the fact that he told me that he did not like small indoor dogs. I did not take this too seriously because I initially thought he was joking around and giving me a hard time because I had 2 small indoor dogs who were my world. They were like my children. I blew off his concerns because I just thought "What kind of weirdo doesn't like small dogs?" I just knew this could not really be a THING! After all…you have to be heartless to not like dogs and Todd was definitely not heartless!
So…I ignored the small, tiny red flag waving in the distance and proceeded on to the Saturday date. It was going to be fine! We were going to have a blast just as we always had!!
Saturday, June 14, 2014
Late Night Cocktails and Shenenigans
I went about a month without dating anyone. I had just lost interest and decided that I needed a break from the entire dating scene for a while. I was not doing any sort of online dating and I decided that I was not going to actively pursue anyone. If someone happened to come into my life, that was fine, but no looking for anyone. After a little while of this hiatus, a client of mine decided that they had someone that I should meet. He was in the same field as me and they thought that we would be a good match. I was not really super interested in dating, but since it was a client, I felt a bit obligated to at least entertain the idea.
She did all of the leg work as far as exchanging our numbers and names. I left everything up to him to contact me. Within a couple of days I received a phone call from him. His name was Todd. We hit it off immediately on the phone. We had so much to talk about. We had the same client's that we worked with so that in itself gave us a huge conversation starter. Plus, Todd was hilarious!! That was a major plus for me since I absolutely LOVE a man with a sense of humor. I had so much fun talking to him on the phone. We began talking a lot during the day. We both had fairly flexible schedules so it allowed for lots of phone time and lots of time for text messages to be exchanged.
The more I got to know about him, the more intrigued I became. This guy had his life together. He was strong in his faith, he had a GREAT job and he had a great family. He even had a 3 story house that he OWNED…not owed a mortgage on…but OWNED and he was 34 years old! He was a far cry from the other guys I had been dating, and a complete 180 from my ex-husband. I was absolutely impressed with him and his drive to succeed in life.
After a couple weeks of a lot of talking, Todd and I decided that it was definitely time to meet face-to-face. We lived in two different cities, but our jobs afforded us the opportunity to work in each other's cities so we decided that the next time one of us was working in the other's city, we would have dinner. Well, it happened within a day. He was in my city working and was going to be there for the night. We made plans to go eat dinner. I was so excited to finally meet him in person! I had seen his picture on Facebook and I knew he was cute but I could not wait to spend time with him.
We met at a local restaurant for cocktails and dinner. It was an INSTANT connection. He was not just cute…he was HOT!! We literally talked the entire time and there was an undeniable chemistry between us! It was honestly the best first date that I had been on in a VERY long time. The connection between us was just so good! We ended up walking around outside and talking for almost 2 hours after dinner. It was so nice to just connect with someone on this level. I felt like I had known him for years and it was our first date.
While we were walking around, we found a bench in a secluded area. That was when he kissed me. We ended up making out right there on the bench. I am not one to do that in a public area, but put a few cocktails in me, give me a great connection with a hot guy and I guess I will change my mind. Plus, it was a week night…there was no one around to witness my shenenigans.
I ended up staying out with him until around 1:30AM. We spent the entire night talking, making out and talking some more. I just remember that I absolutely did not want to go home but I knew that it was best that I did. I just did not want the night to end!!
She did all of the leg work as far as exchanging our numbers and names. I left everything up to him to contact me. Within a couple of days I received a phone call from him. His name was Todd. We hit it off immediately on the phone. We had so much to talk about. We had the same client's that we worked with so that in itself gave us a huge conversation starter. Plus, Todd was hilarious!! That was a major plus for me since I absolutely LOVE a man with a sense of humor. I had so much fun talking to him on the phone. We began talking a lot during the day. We both had fairly flexible schedules so it allowed for lots of phone time and lots of time for text messages to be exchanged.
The more I got to know about him, the more intrigued I became. This guy had his life together. He was strong in his faith, he had a GREAT job and he had a great family. He even had a 3 story house that he OWNED…not owed a mortgage on…but OWNED and he was 34 years old! He was a far cry from the other guys I had been dating, and a complete 180 from my ex-husband. I was absolutely impressed with him and his drive to succeed in life.
After a couple weeks of a lot of talking, Todd and I decided that it was definitely time to meet face-to-face. We lived in two different cities, but our jobs afforded us the opportunity to work in each other's cities so we decided that the next time one of us was working in the other's city, we would have dinner. Well, it happened within a day. He was in my city working and was going to be there for the night. We made plans to go eat dinner. I was so excited to finally meet him in person! I had seen his picture on Facebook and I knew he was cute but I could not wait to spend time with him.
We met at a local restaurant for cocktails and dinner. It was an INSTANT connection. He was not just cute…he was HOT!! We literally talked the entire time and there was an undeniable chemistry between us! It was honestly the best first date that I had been on in a VERY long time. The connection between us was just so good! We ended up walking around outside and talking for almost 2 hours after dinner. It was so nice to just connect with someone on this level. I felt like I had known him for years and it was our first date.
While we were walking around, we found a bench in a secluded area. That was when he kissed me. We ended up making out right there on the bench. I am not one to do that in a public area, but put a few cocktails in me, give me a great connection with a hot guy and I guess I will change my mind. Plus, it was a week night…there was no one around to witness my shenenigans.
I ended up staying out with him until around 1:30AM. We spent the entire night talking, making out and talking some more. I just remember that I absolutely did not want to go home but I knew that it was best that I did. I just did not want the night to end!!
Friday, June 6, 2014
The Mama's Boy
The next guy I met was named Jamey. Jamey and I actually met during the time that I was online dating and I met Jed and Don but I told him that I was seeing someone. We decided to become Facebook friends and keep in touch. Once Don and I broke things off, Jamey and I began chatting more. I had never really talked to him too much prior to this since I was dating Don at the time so it was my first real chance to get to know him.
At first glance he seemed like a super cute guy and he told me how much he loved working out and being active which was a huge plus for me. I decided that I would give him a chance and that maybe we could just talk a little more before we actually went on a date.
Once I started paying more attention to Jamey's Facebook profile and pictures, I began to notice that his mom was VERY involved. He had multiple profile pictures of he and his mom and any time he would post a picture or a status, his mom would be one of the first to comment. Now, while I thought this was a little strange, I didn't let it scare me off. We kept talking for about a week. There were definitely signs that I noticed that he was possibly a little desperate for someone to date. I just was not in that same place. I had just gotten out of a relationship and I was just looking for something casual and fun.
He finally made the move and asked me out. The date that he had in mind was for me to come over to his house, we would watch a football game, and he was going to make rotel dip and pigs-in-a-blanket. YES…he was that specific about the menu! I just honestly could not do it. First, I had learned from my experience with Jed that I would never EVER have a first date at someone's house again. Second, when I really sat down and thought about it, the mom thing really creeped me out. I want to be with someone who loves their mother and treats them well, but there is a fine line between love and creepy obsession. And third, the fact that he was so specific about what he was going to prepare for appetizers just really annoyed me for some reason.
After I turned him down for a date, he turned into the weird Facebook "status updater". One example was "Enjoyed hanging out by myself so much this past weekend that I think I might do it again this weekend…gotta have some company though…hmmmm". Then of course, his mother would comment about coming to see him and keeping him company. It was just altogether too creepy. I honestly believe I dodged a HUGE bullet on this one. All in all, after a couple more text messages and weird Facebook status updates, he bowed out gracefully. He was one of the overall less dramatic, but still interesting, ones that I have come across.
At first glance he seemed like a super cute guy and he told me how much he loved working out and being active which was a huge plus for me. I decided that I would give him a chance and that maybe we could just talk a little more before we actually went on a date.
Once I started paying more attention to Jamey's Facebook profile and pictures, I began to notice that his mom was VERY involved. He had multiple profile pictures of he and his mom and any time he would post a picture or a status, his mom would be one of the first to comment. Now, while I thought this was a little strange, I didn't let it scare me off. We kept talking for about a week. There were definitely signs that I noticed that he was possibly a little desperate for someone to date. I just was not in that same place. I had just gotten out of a relationship and I was just looking for something casual and fun.
He finally made the move and asked me out. The date that he had in mind was for me to come over to his house, we would watch a football game, and he was going to make rotel dip and pigs-in-a-blanket. YES…he was that specific about the menu! I just honestly could not do it. First, I had learned from my experience with Jed that I would never EVER have a first date at someone's house again. Second, when I really sat down and thought about it, the mom thing really creeped me out. I want to be with someone who loves their mother and treats them well, but there is a fine line between love and creepy obsession. And third, the fact that he was so specific about what he was going to prepare for appetizers just really annoyed me for some reason.
After I turned him down for a date, he turned into the weird Facebook "status updater". One example was "Enjoyed hanging out by myself so much this past weekend that I think I might do it again this weekend…gotta have some company though…hmmmm". Then of course, his mother would comment about coming to see him and keeping him company. It was just altogether too creepy. I honestly believe I dodged a HUGE bullet on this one. All in all, after a couple more text messages and weird Facebook status updates, he bowed out gracefully. He was one of the overall less dramatic, but still interesting, ones that I have come across.
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