It only took him 30 minutes to call once he had left. I thought, "Oh good, he is calling to apologize for how inappropriate he was the night before and this morning" so I decided to answer the phone. On the other end of that phone was no apology…it was a screaming man telling me how awful of a person I was for kicking him out of my house and making him drive back home in a rainstorm. He called me a bitch, told me I was a piece of shit and was screaming like a CRAZY man! Needless to say…if I didn't realize it the night before, I quickly realized I dodged not just a bullet, but a missile!
I remained calm on the phone and told him that he would not speak to me in that manner. I informed him that we would not be speaking again after this interaction and that I hoped that he had a safe trip home in the big bad rainstorm (which people drive in everyday). He called over and over again and I would not answer his calls because I knew how crazy he was acting and I was not going to deal with it at that moment.
The following day he called again. I answered. He was singing a completely different tune. He apologized for the way he had acted, and he informed me that we should be together because he makes enough money to take care of me and that is what I need. Oh yes!!! That will solve all of my problems…sense the sarcasm?!? I told him once again that this would not happen and to please just forget about the weekend. To this day…over 2 years later I will still get an occasional text from "Psycho Jed" as he is now stored in my phone. Some are just checking in to see what's up, and some have been pictures of some guy's chest…but definitely not his. He must have forgotten I have seen his!
What I learned from this interaction…my "take-away's":
* NEVER EVER have a guy over to your house on a first date…even if you know him. First dates are best in public places and you should ALWAYS ALWAYS meet each other there.
* When online dating you never know what you will get. Don't expect the person to show up and look exactly like their profile picture or even be who they really say they are. It is easy to hide behind a computer.
* It is OK to end a situation immediately if you are uncomfortable. You are the only one who is in charge when it comes to you and your happiness (and safety). If you do not feel OK with how things are progressing, leave…or in this instance…kick them out IMMEDIATELY.
* Size DOES matter! You know that line "it's not the size of the boat, its the motion in the ocean"…well, I can't say for sure but from pure speculation of what I saw there could be a hurricane in that ocean and it would never be enough.
Now that I was armed with all of these take-away's from my first date I was ready to conquer the dating world. I was confident that this was just a bump in the road and I was excited to meet the next guy. I just knew it was going to be better.
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