LB and I dated for about a month and a half. I was SO impressed by how mature he seemed. At times I felt that maybe he tried too hard to seem older than he was, but overall I had a good time with him. I actually forgot about his age and finally let myself just enjoy my time with him. In the back of my mind, I think I always knew that he could quickly revert to being quite immature but I just kept my guard up a little more because of this.
I finally decided to have him over for dinner one night that I was going to cook. Up until this point we had only ever eaten out and I felt it was time to show him my skills in the kitchen :) He came over and I had dinner prepared. The menu was pork tenderloin, mashed potatoes, and green beans. I felt it was a basic meal that anyone would be happy with.
We had a great time eating dinner and just spent the evening talking over food and wine. Afterwards we watched a movie together and just enjoyed each other's company. When it was time for him to leave, he kissed me goodnight and we said we would speak the next day. I had absolutely no indication that anything could be wrong.
Well…apparently something was! I never heard a WORD from him after he left my house. One day passed, two days passed, a week passed and no contact from LB. I was quite baffled by the entire scenario. Anyone else might have picked up the phone and tried to contact him, but I'm simply too stubborn to do that. I decided that if he wanted to talk to me, he knew how to get in touch with me. I never heard from him AT ALL!!
I honestly at one point wondered if he might have had an accident or even died because it was all so bizarre. One minute he is over at my house for dinner and watching a movie, and literally the next day he is no longer around!! Maybe it was the cooking :)
It became a big joke between my friends and I of what could have happened to LB!!
I finally just chalked it up to the fact that he was so young and he actually WAS completely immature. This was the first time I had ever stopped dating someone without so much as a "good-bye". I didn't know what to do with the situation other than let it go and find the next guy.
About a month passed and I finally passed LB driving down the interstate! I have to say that I was relieved that he was at least alive. I did not let this bother me at all because at the end of the day I knew in the back of my mind that he was too young for the kind of commitment that I wanted in my life. This is why I made myself keep my guard up because I just had a feeling that it wasn't going to work. However, I never thought he would just vanish and never let me know!
To this day it makes me laugh a little bit that I went out with someone who was so much younger than me and that it ended the way it did. There were several take-aways from my fling with LB:
*It is perfectly fine to date someone who is not your age. However, for me I decided that from this point forward they would have to be older than me because I was NOT going to deal with this level of immaturity or sketchiness again.
*Don't spend your time worrying about what happened to someone. Chances are they are not dead or in the hospital. I am a worrier by nature so this did bother me a bit to know that something could have happened to him. I learned from this that some people are just not mature enough to properly end a relationship with someone.
*Don't waste your time cooking for someone until you are SURE you are interested :) I spent time and money on him. He did not have the decency or respect for me to even talk to me about how he felt. I learned to make sure that you are really sure about someone and where it might go before you put in any extra effort.
It didn't take me long to move on to the next guy :)
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